F-list and inattention

[clevermanka]

Yesterday I was coming out of the restroom on third floor and the woman following me out asked "Are you Chernobyl Red?" Wow! That was a first. It was affreca, who said she friended me, but doesn't comment. I was flattered at being recognized, and I felt a little bad that I hadn't noticed she friended me. I know I've said this before, but it bears repeating (especially with Faire starting and new folks might be friending me): I don't check to see who friends and unfriends me. It's not something I pay attention to. Please don't take it personally if I don't notice you've done one or the other.

The only time I look at my list of LJ friends is when my f-page is getting out of hand and I have to do some trimming. I feel like if you're on my f-list, you should be someone with whom I regularly interact. I should be reading your entries and commenting on a regular basis. There are some people I've friended, we interacted quite a bit, but our common interests diverged or whatever, and I found myself commenting (and reading) less and less. When I'm no longer reading someone's entries, it's time to take that person off my f-list. It's not a comment on how I feel about him or her as a person. Not at all. It's just that some people fall in and out of contact. That's normal. I want to make sure I read and/or comment fairly regularly to all the people on my f-list. That's not how everyone deals with their f-list and that's fine. I'm just saying that's how I work mine.

I do not have internet access at home. All my LJ and email must be done at work, in the time I can squeeze in between job duties. I don't have time to read and respond to 100+ friends. As a matter of fact, I'm looking at the list now (which has managed to creep above 100 again) and I'm wondering if I shouldn't do some trimming.

So please, don't take it personally, ok? I rarely post things friends-only. So it's not like you're getting cut out of something big--not really. What I post here is open for anyone to see. If I felt otherwise, I wouldn't be putting it on the internet.

Comments

[starwyse.livejournal.com]

I have been in this position and just trimmed my own list. It can quickly get unruly!

See you at faire as soon as I can get myself out there...

[normalcyispasse.livejournal.com]

Hmm -- I know that feeling well. I seem to remember standing in front of a bulletin board in Wescoe one day when a certain sexy secretary sidled up to me and (alliteration fails me) asked me about LJ.

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

I thought of our meeting when it happened! Funny.

[stuology.livejournal.com]

I've referred to people by their LJ name in real life conversations with non-LJ people. I got a comment on how cute Ada's cherry outfit was and I said, "Thanks! Chernobyl Red made it for her."

"Who?"

"Cherno....oh, yeah, L**** made it."

[arian1.livejournal.com]

You're Chernobyl Red?!! WOW! Hawt.

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

I love that!!! How funny.

Also love that you're happy with the outfits. They were so fun to make!

[zokah.livejournal.com]

"...a certain sexy secretary sidled up to me and sultrily asked me ..."

[chronovore.livejournal.com]

F-lists are like pubic hair; they need trimming to be socially effective. Trim them too much and it's nothing but scratchy... wait, this analogy is turning out all wrong.

F-lists are like a fire engine... No.

Um.

[starstraf.livejournal.com]

And the world is small, cause I run into affreca and lawnchair at garage sales and tonight at checkers. (I know him from West Side Folk events)

[mckitterick.livejournal.com]

They're like launch systems: As long as they continue to satisfy the need for which they were created and can lift cargo out of our gravity well, they serve the purpose. Just add turbojets, and suddenly old rocket-only systems are more efficient and cutting-edge again.

Hm.

How about they're like internal-combustion-engine pistons: Hypereutectic ones are the most effective because they're a combination of alloys and silicon, flexible and heat-conductive yet rigid and insulative. They.... Hm, that's not right either.

Okay, I have it: F-lists are like a box of chocolates. Feh. Many beers do not make one wise ;-)

Happy to all!

[chronovore.livejournal.com]

Many beers do not make one wise

No, but it is stunning how frequently they can make the indulger feel wise. Why, I wish to test this theory immediately!

[mckitterick.livejournal.com]

Ah, yes, I'm feeling super-wise right now! A place in town has liters of tasty beer for $4. Mmmm. I can tell you all about what you need to do to become, um, whatever would make you most happy or healthy!

[chronovore.livejournal.com]

Quite clearly, the answer is "beer."

[mckitterick.livejournal.com]

Ah yes, my friend, that is true, but it is not the only ingredient in happiness. Also necessary are good friends and a lack of needing to wake up early in the morning. Other things help too: Sprinkle into mixture to taste!