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clevermanka) wrote2015-07-07 10:04 am
clevermanka) wrote2015-07-07 10:04 am
So much so much
Today's Tumblr is Tuesday, July 7: Gowns.
I know, I know, I know I link to Breaking Muscle all the time but oh my god you guys, I want to do this 90 day program so hard.
Either I misplaced my box of fandom calling cards or I gave them all away. In any case, I wanted to get more for Con*Strict. I ordered them late Friday evening and they're already done this morning. Local folks, I can't recommend Minuteman Press enough. I didn't even have to call them. You can do all your ordering online! So great, and $40 for 250 cards (full color with bleed).
I finished my badge for Con*Strict last night! It was coming together pretty well, so I decided to go ahead and make it double-sided so that when it flips over (as lanyard badges inevitably do), it'll still show the relevant information. One side is Mad Max themed and the other is Sherlock. I'll try to remember to bring it to work to scan tomorrow so I can post a picture of it.
Found on the Toast Link Roundup, here's a great Kids These Days article.
"Screen Addiction is a generational complaint, and generational complaints, taken individually, are rarely what they claim to be. They are fresh expressions of horrible and timeless anxieties. They are a tried and true form of advanced-age self-care. They apply to all children except your kids, who are mere victims of their degraded peers. They apply to the Snapchats and the sexting, but not to those Facetime conversations with your grandniece, who is too young to text and Twitter, or to turn away, and who is therefore perfect.
The grandparent who is persuaded that screens are not destroying human interaction, but are instead new tools for enabling fresh and flawed and modes of human interaction, is left facing a grimmer reality. Your grandchildren don’t look up from their phones because the experiences and friendships they enjoy there seem more interesting than what’s in front of them (you). Those experiences, from the outside, seem insultingly lame: text notifications, Emoji, selfies of other bratty little kids you’ve never met. But they’re urgent and real. What’s different is that they’re also right here, always, even when you thought you had an attentional claim."
And my favorite is the closing bit:
" A new technology can be enriching and exciting for one group of people and create alienation for another; you don’t have to think the world is doomed to recognize that the present can be a little cruel."
I don't understand why it's so difficult for parents to remove the technology when the presence of the technology is inappropriate to the situation. I understood when it was time to put down the book or the crayons or whatever. How is a tablet or phone different? That's not a rhetorical question. I honestly want to know. Is there a difference? How? Why?
I commented on The Toast that grandparents need to make themselves relevant and interesting. That's just courteous. I'm lucky. My dad's parents were fascinating people and I happily listened to their stories about throwing rocks at the National Guard when they came in to guard the scabs during a union strike. Or about how theirs was the first lunch counter in their city to seat Black people. Helping grandma in the kitchen and her telling stories about the people who bought her pies as she taught me how to make a good pie crust. I mean, I guess I didn't have the option of internet friends back then, but even today, if I had the choice to visit with them about their amazing adventures or scroll through my Tumblr dash, I probably wouldn't choose Tumblr. Old people need to get over the notion that they're deserving of time and attention just because they're old.
Tonight is my appointment with Dr. Jonah in KC. Tomorrow night is prep for Indy (making kale chips so we have a travel vegetable to go with the jerky so we don't have to stop somewhere for lunch), and also slicing up the jerky for Con*Strict (so it has four days to marinade before I put it in the dehydrator when I'm back from Indy). I'd like to make a couple more tops to take to Con*Strict. My first attempt at re-fashioning some thrift-store tees into a mini-dress was successful. I'd like to pack those instead of tops and skirts because I am all about minimal packing. Also because I need to leave enough room for my iPod speakers and yoga mat in my suitcase.
I know, I know, I know I link to Breaking Muscle all the time but oh my god you guys, I want to do this 90 day program so hard.
Either I misplaced my box of fandom calling cards or I gave them all away. In any case, I wanted to get more for Con*Strict. I ordered them late Friday evening and they're already done this morning. Local folks, I can't recommend Minuteman Press enough. I didn't even have to call them. You can do all your ordering online! So great, and $40 for 250 cards (full color with bleed).
I finished my badge for Con*Strict last night! It was coming together pretty well, so I decided to go ahead and make it double-sided so that when it flips over (as lanyard badges inevitably do), it'll still show the relevant information. One side is Mad Max themed and the other is Sherlock. I'll try to remember to bring it to work to scan tomorrow so I can post a picture of it.
Found on the Toast Link Roundup, here's a great Kids These Days article.
"Screen Addiction is a generational complaint, and generational complaints, taken individually, are rarely what they claim to be. They are fresh expressions of horrible and timeless anxieties. They are a tried and true form of advanced-age self-care. They apply to all children except your kids, who are mere victims of their degraded peers. They apply to the Snapchats and the sexting, but not to those Facetime conversations with your grandniece, who is too young to text and Twitter, or to turn away, and who is therefore perfect.
The grandparent who is persuaded that screens are not destroying human interaction, but are instead new tools for enabling fresh and flawed and modes of human interaction, is left facing a grimmer reality. Your grandchildren don’t look up from their phones because the experiences and friendships they enjoy there seem more interesting than what’s in front of them (you). Those experiences, from the outside, seem insultingly lame: text notifications, Emoji, selfies of other bratty little kids you’ve never met. But they’re urgent and real. What’s different is that they’re also right here, always, even when you thought you had an attentional claim."
And my favorite is the closing bit:
" A new technology can be enriching and exciting for one group of people and create alienation for another; you don’t have to think the world is doomed to recognize that the present can be a little cruel."
I don't understand why it's so difficult for parents to remove the technology when the presence of the technology is inappropriate to the situation. I understood when it was time to put down the book or the crayons or whatever. How is a tablet or phone different? That's not a rhetorical question. I honestly want to know. Is there a difference? How? Why?
I commented on The Toast that grandparents need to make themselves relevant and interesting. That's just courteous. I'm lucky. My dad's parents were fascinating people and I happily listened to their stories about throwing rocks at the National Guard when they came in to guard the scabs during a union strike. Or about how theirs was the first lunch counter in their city to seat Black people. Helping grandma in the kitchen and her telling stories about the people who bought her pies as she taught me how to make a good pie crust. I mean, I guess I didn't have the option of internet friends back then, but even today, if I had the choice to visit with them about their amazing adventures or scroll through my Tumblr dash, I probably wouldn't choose Tumblr. Old people need to get over the notion that they're deserving of time and attention just because they're old.
Tonight is my appointment with Dr. Jonah in KC. Tomorrow night is prep for Indy (making kale chips so we have a travel vegetable to go with the jerky so we don't have to stop somewhere for lunch), and also slicing up the jerky for Con*Strict (so it has four days to marinade before I put it in the dehydrator when I'm back from Indy). I'd like to make a couple more tops to take to Con*Strict. My first attempt at re-fashioning some thrift-store tees into a mini-dress was successful. I'd like to pack those instead of tops and skirts because I am all about minimal packing. Also because I need to leave enough room for my iPod speakers and yoga mat in my suitcase.
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What a great workout regime!
What a great plan for food and clothing! (And what great Bowl of Food I'm having!)
What a great badge you made!
You are full of Awesome.
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Oh! Love that bodyweight plan. Budget and time are pushing me toward a cycle or two of at-home effort. I like BW because, aside from being tremendously effective and free, my odds of avoiding injuryvare better. The "work to failure" approach, combined with the active rest week, is really interesting.
Imma do eet. Let me know if you want to synchronize?
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That makes sense, yes. I have no interest in "shredding," so I intend to define ENOUGH for each set a bit more loosely than a 20yo ninja might. Because I am a grown-ass lady and get to choose my own adventure. Thanks for the link -- I hadn't seen it yet!
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I've finally reached the point where I don't mind being a bit chubby as long as I look like I could kick serious ass. I'm over needing to look pretty. Now I just want to look dangerous. I want to get back to that sooner than later.
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That is a very intriguing workout program!
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Don't ask me, because i have no idea. Given my own background of behavior, I pretty much sub in my head "would I be okay with it if he was reading a book in this situation"*** and if the answer is no, i tell him to put the electronics away. There are obvious situations: restaurants, visiting people, whatever and in most of those I don't even have to tell him because he's either learned by now That's My Rule or That's The Social Norm We Are Enforcing or whatever the impetus for put the phone/book down is. There are less obvious ones: in the car on the way to school, etc.
I try to be very clear (to him and to myself) when I think it is actually "inappropriate" and when I just want him to put it away because I want his attention (in the car during periods of long road trip) because there's a difference. And I don't have a problem making the latter very clear; I don't need to hide it behind a "you shouldn't be using so much electronics anyway!!11!!!" If he wants to say no because he's right in the middle of something, that's fine (lemme finish this chapter!). I have a more of a problem if he wants to say no just because he doesn't feel like it but that's not electronics-related, it's more compassion-related (c'mon dude someone asked you straight out for some of your attention, can you consider what it's actually costing you.. etc. and that's one of my own personal parenting focuses, compassion v. selfcare and how they intersect.).
But, it's not just kids. I don't understand that "restaurant phone stack challenge" thing that adults have to do with their phones to keep from using them. WTH? You are out to dinner with people for crissake.
So, I dunno.
Editing to add: ***and there are the few times I actually would be fine if he was reading a book and not on the phone but that's related to "electronics limit" in a day and not really situational.
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I think the concepts of basic courtesy are failing in general and technology might be speeding their demise but they're not the root of the problem.
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I can't wait to see your badge!
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Looking dangerous is hotter than pretty!
OMG Kyemah McIntyre!! I'm so happy for her.
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I mean Jesus Fucking Christ just look at her.
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Man, that woman is something else, (who IS SHE?)
but I was talking about the teen designer (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3118633/Bullied-teen-earns-internet-fame-rising-cruel-taunts-tormentors-designing-stunning-African-inspired-prom-dress.html).
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I am so glad that you misunderstood who I was talking about, because HOLEY SHIT, she is amazing. AS is the gown designer. (nice tumblr)
I have some things to think about. Because, yah, put her stuff into th standard BMI and you get "ugh.. OBESE" but she can kick most peoples' butts in fitness.
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I would like to die crushed between her thighs, please.
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It isn't difficult, up to a certain point. My kids are at the age where I can still do it. They will get older and find ways around me. But such is the way with lots of things other than just technology.
However, how my kids react to being told to stop reading a book or stop coloring over how they react to being told to stop using the computer/tablet is different. Their reactions to being withdrawn from technology is almost just like that -- withdrawal, especially Jay.
And technology destroying human interaction? I wouldn't use such strong terms for it, but I wouldn't shove that thought off completely. It degrades mine with my kids, and not always from my kids side, but from mine. I'm always connected to everything. And my kids have more than once told me to put my phone away because something has beeped on it or I just need to check my work messages/email and I do it while they are in the middle of talking to me. And I can just put it down as an adult that has full control over my own actions, but I don't always do that. It is almost like a reaction--especially since we now have expectations at work of technology making us master multi-taskers and that we must react right away to whatever technology is interrupting us and all it really is doing is making us scatter brained and less able to do the thing we are suppose to be doing really well.
But, Ada video called me while I was in Costco and I got to ask if she wanted something by just showing it to her. Think of the divorced parents of old that had to try to be home to not miss a telephone call or had to wait for a letter in the mail when they didn't have their kids? Those poor parents. If my kids miss me, they video call me. And if I can't answer, I just send them a text to tell them. And I only miss it if they call when I'm asleep and don't hear it.
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That's interesting. I don't really notice any sort of appreciable difference in reaction in our son. Although he's 15 so coloring isn't really a thing anymore. :) But, in general, the reaction is the same whether it's reading, on his phone/tablet, playing call of duty on the xbox, or working on some sort of project: if it's right at an important part, there's resistance (the "lemme finish this chapter!" i mentioned above). If it's actually interacting with someone, then it's treated like an oldschool being on the phone with someone and decided upon situationally. If it's neither, then it's just put it down/turn it off and move on.
Part of that might also be that we have always** enforced limits to time spent on electronics v non-electronic pursuits, so there's not a lot of resistance to the idea of "unplugging" in general.
** and I mean always! We're a very tech-oriented and early adopter household (i.e., he and my husband developed a chess game for the indiecade occulus VRjam (http://www.indiecade.com/2013/oculus_vr_jam/) back when he was 12). He's been on his own computer since he was about 12 months old with one of those one click "baby mice" shaped like a bear and all sorts of baby games. So, he's had a lot years to practice self-regulation with respect to technology. :)
That's not to say there might not have been a period of resistance back during some age/period and I just don't remember it anymore! :D
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I admit I feel the same way about being offline for more than a day or two. I think it's mostly, in my case, though, the internet is where all my friends are.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. As I mentioned to
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man crawls on stage during broadway play to charge phone (http://www.unilad.co.uk/video/man-crawls-on-set-during-broadway-play-to-charge-his-phone/)
This is why we can't have nice things.
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