Vertigo Schtick

[clevermanka]

Guardian/adjacent:
Fanart: Bedtime snuggles. I laughed at this baby Ghost King comic. 2Luo.
Companies spend a lot of money on marketing in China. I honestly don't know how one survives being faced with a larger-than-life-size ReFa ad.

Untamed/adjacent:
Modern CQL illustrations continue, now with Zidian.

One person left kudos on six of my stories yesterday, including Ghost Story. o_O That's a lot of reading.

In a conversation on yesterday's watch party, someone (Sherly--I don't know their DW name?) mentioned having Zhao Yunlan-levels of bad luck in love and I thought we were going to have a whole Bad Romance thread \o/ but then nobody else weighed in on their tragic love stories. /o\ Then this tweet about being a "foster girlfriend" crossed my tl and Lord Do I Know That Feel. Something I didn't mention in yesterday's hilarious outpouring of woe was that for about, uh, 20 years all but one dude that I had sex with married the next woman he dated (and afaik that one guy is still unmarried). I seriously could have rented myself out as a service for wedding-bound women. So if you feel like starting a Bad Romance comment thread here, I'm all ears. And now I'm gonna go rewatch that music video for the bajillionth time because that's still a great song.

Comments

[riventhorn]

Thank you! The worst one is the girl who was my BFF in elementary and middle school. We had a huge falling out in middle school, didn't speak to each other in high school, and then happened to reconnect in college because her boyfriend was going to same college I was. So we apologized, were friends again briefly and then--honestly, I don't know what happened. I think her relationship with her boyfriend was not going well, and she just stopped responding to my calls and emails. I finally stopped trying to get in touch with her because she obviously didn't want me in her life anymore.

The worst thing about it, though--and I still cry about this because it makes me so upset--is that it was only when I was in my 30s and realized that I was ace, that I could look back on my relationship with her in middle school, and perhaps even our second round in college and realize--you know, I think I was actually in love with her. She's been the one person in my life who I could talk to about anything, who I felt 100% comfortable with. But growing up, I had never heard about being asexual, and I was never sexually attracted to her (being biromantic was also an unknown). It never even occurred to me that I could be romantically attracted to someone without the sexual component.

And okay, probably it wouldn't have worked out anyway--I know she married a man and has a kid. But I missed my chance to at least try to have a partnership with her because I didn't even know it was a possibility. Didn't even know it was a thing I could maybe have and would want to have.

Sorry. I think you were looking for more funny bad romance stories, and that was not funny. I am not at a place yet and probably never will be where I can find any humor in the situation.

[clevermanka]

Oh, hon, that's sad. If only/What if thoughts are tough. It extra sucks that you lost the friend in the end, too.

I missed my chance to at least try to have a partnership with her because I didn't even know it was a possibility
Allo/Heteronormativity really needs to die in a fire.

[riventhorn]

Allo/Heteronormativity really needs to die in a fire

Too true. I am glad that many teenagers today are at least aware that there are other possibilities. This is a big reason why, despite it's many faults, I will never be convinced that the internet is not a good thing. It can expand your horizons so much.

[minoanmiss]

This is a big reason why, despite it's many faults, I will never be convinced that the internet is not a good thing.

Amen.

Also, big hugs from a small soft woman, if you would like.

[riventhorn]

I will gladly accept your hugs. <3<3<3