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clevermanka) wrote2021-01-22 11:15 am
clevermanka) wrote2021-01-22 11:15 am
Romantic Scene
Since I didn't post anything yesterday, here's yesterday's dump on cm.net. And now back to the questions!
resonant asked "What's one of the first romantic scenes you remember really being moved by?"
I wrote my thoughts about Yentl last year, so I've already talked a little about that scene where (spoiler? I guess?) Hadass kisses Yentl (thinking she's actually Anschel). It was my first experience seeing accidental same-sex kissing not played off as a joke and I thought it was beautiful. I wanted them to kiss! Like, for real kiss! I've always been a sucker for romance. I unashamedly admit to loving romantic comedies and I wish there were more of them that weren't actually misogynist creeper fantasies.
Being so in love with people in love, I was sufficiently swept up in the emotions of the movie I didn't have the space to be repulsed by the kiss (as I'd been taught to be, raised in a Southern Baptist home). I can't say it was a ~sexual awakening~ or anything like that, but it certainly put me on the track of feeling like same-sex attraction wasn't necessarily a bad/evil thing. It's not that I wanted them to kiss only if Yentl was actually a boy, but as Yentl and Hadass. Their relationship was so sweet and loving. How much should sex/gender really matter when you loved someone?
At the tender age of 14, still heavily entrenched in my religious upbringing, I didn't have the means or the internal language to really understand that question, much less ask it of myself. But it definitely helped put me in a space to rapidly shed those prejudices four years later when I went to college and met people for whom sex and gender didn't determine whom they loved/kissed.
This was a lovely question, thank you for asking it!
resonant asked "What's one of the first romantic scenes you remember really being moved by?" I wrote my thoughts about Yentl last year, so I've already talked a little about that scene where (spoiler? I guess?) Hadass kisses Yentl (thinking she's actually Anschel). It was my first experience seeing accidental same-sex kissing not played off as a joke and I thought it was beautiful. I wanted them to kiss! Like, for real kiss! I've always been a sucker for romance. I unashamedly admit to loving romantic comedies and I wish there were more of them that weren't actually misogynist creeper fantasies.
Being so in love with people in love, I was sufficiently swept up in the emotions of the movie I didn't have the space to be repulsed by the kiss (as I'd been taught to be, raised in a Southern Baptist home). I can't say it was a ~sexual awakening~ or anything like that, but it certainly put me on the track of feeling like same-sex attraction wasn't necessarily a bad/evil thing. It's not that I wanted them to kiss only if Yentl was actually a boy, but as Yentl and Hadass. Their relationship was so sweet and loving. How much should sex/gender really matter when you loved someone?
At the tender age of 14, still heavily entrenched in my religious upbringing, I didn't have the means or the internal language to really understand that question, much less ask it of myself. But it definitely helped put me in a space to rapidly shed those prejudices four years later when I went to college and met people for whom sex and gender didn't determine whom they loved/kissed.
This was a lovely question, thank you for asking it!
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