So I just had a thought...

[clevermanka]

I'm not proud of some of my coping mechanisms but I'm also unashamed about using them when needs must. I realize though, that some people might not have similar relationships with their demons. So please tell me if it bothers you when I talk about substance use and, if so, how you'd like me to deal with it when posting here.

Poll #25278 Reading about recreational drug/alcohol use...

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...bothers me...

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...not at all.
30 (93.8%)

...and I'd like you to put it behind a cut.
2 (6.2%)

Comments

[shipperslist]

As an alcoholic’s ex-wife, I’m not sure how to answer. Drugs bother me, yes, but alcohol? Not so much. Or at least it doesn’t when the topic isn’t about playing a victim and denying the problem.

But I’m really good at scrolling past posts that don’t tickle my fancy.

(I have no idea what the point of this reply was.)

[clevermanka]

😄 I almost included an option "...a little, but don't worry about it." Guess I should have!

[lferion]

I'm not bothered, but sometimes a cut is useful? In a 'I will come back and read that properly' kind of way. Hopefully that makes sense.

[clevermanka]

It'll probably just a throwaway reference, if that helps. Like "today was not a day for being sober," etc.

[goss]

To elaborate: It doesn't bother me personally, but I have a number of close family members (many of my cousins - apparently addiction/depression runs in this generation of my family?) whose drug and/or alcohol use did eventually spiral into abuse. Some were/are doing fine now, a few not so much.

And I do care about you, so if it ever starts to affect you negatively, and use becomes abuse, I would certainly be bothered. But as long as it's safe to your quality of life, it's fine with me. I think it's good to communicate and keep track of actually, and definitely encourage you to keep writing it all down. <3

[clevermanka]

I would be bothered, too, so thank you!

Although both my grandfathers had some issues with alcohol (maternal side much worse), I seem to have largely escaped any genetic predisposition to addiction. I've been a pretty-much-daily dope-smoker and/or drinker for, uh... 25+ years? 😂 I used to pick up my cigarettes every spring and easily put them down when winter got too chilly (I never smoked tobacco in my home). I even ditched sugar with minimal difficulties. I'm very lucky!

[libitina]

It doesn't bother me as an occasional topic, but I like it as an opt in sort of discussion. Your previous entry looked like a perfect use of cut tagging.

[clevermanka]

Excellent, thanks! It's not like I discuss it as A Topic, but I was concerned casual reference might be bothering people (as topics about weight bother some).

[feroxargentea]

A cut would be kind of you, on the whole, and thank you for asking.

[clevermanka]

Sure thing. It's not something I mention often, but I'd rather not send someone into a bad spiral, especially in These Trying times.

[digitaldiscipline]

not bothered, but would be in favor of using the cut, both out of sensitivity for others, and because it pops up a new tab and makes it easy to come back to if i get distraacted :-)

[tinny]

That's what tags are perfect for. I know you're not using them, but they're soooo handy!

I would appreciate it if you'd consider tagging your posts for this.

[clevermanka]

Hm. I'm not sure I want to add a tag for it, since it's not something I really discuss as a topic--just passing references like "went out for drinks" (in better times) or "today was a wake and bake sorta day." It's not like I'm going to talk about it more than I have in the past.