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clevermanka) wrote2021-04-15 11:29 am
clevermanka) wrote2021-04-15 11:29 am
Thursday
The new Wonderland Bai Yu photoshoot is causing a(nother) timeline meltdown.
We're also blessed with new Zhu Yilong from the Tom Ford team.
It's been four years since the Guardian filming ceremony.
Fanart: It's raining, can I come in?
Not fandom-related, but good info for escaping Adobe subscriptions if anyone needs that.
Today's dump on cm.net.
Random thought that occurred to me last night: I always shied away from getting a tattoo because I have commitment issues (I don't even like to buy plane tickets), but for a while I thought how much I'd love a collar tattoo that read "Feminist Killjoy" in pretty, swoopy, calligraphy. The reason I didn't get it are irrelevant now, but I gotta say I'm relieved because I'm too tired to wear bitter humor on my body these days.
Tum is feeling a bit better, thank goodness. I managed some of my beloved rice-and-sardines for breakfast with *knock wood* no ill effects other than slight discomfort from putting too much in my now-shrunken belly. I was so hungry though! Gonna attempt some sauteed zucchini for lunch. 🤞
A few days ago I got an email from my mom with the subject line "Today was about you" and had a photo of her wearing a necklace and a wrap I made. Hilarious in light of the post I made about her earlier this month. I have no idea if she's lurking on my social media or not, but it made me laugh. Many many years ago she went nosing around the social media of some friends (who used their legal names) to find mine (I was using a different moniker then) and that's how she found out I smoked and had sex with women (I'm not sure which bothered her more, tbh). My dad told me she had to seek some sort of counseling to recover from that which made me laugh because oh my god how could I not. But yeah, anyway. I don't know if she did the same thing and managed to find my new online persona or not but if you're reading Mommy, HI THERE! Don'tcha wish you'd learned your lesson the first time?
Cool story, bro: I tried to come out to my mom when I was 19. I thought I'd warm up to the big reveal by telling her about a guy I'd met at college who was bi, not gay, and her response was "Oh, they're even worse" so that pretty much shut down that conversation and I never brought it up again. It's okay, I'm over it and can laugh about it now but sheesh. And she wonders why I don't share details of my life with her. smh
I also got an email from a former student who wants to hang out when it's safe to do so and I'm trying to figure out how to give a soft no. She isn't awful or anything, just... sorta judgey and opinionated in ways that rub me the wrong way. She says things like "That restaurant everyone says is good is actually terrible and let me tell you why!" without prompting (or remembering that any catered event I organized for the department used that restaurant because I've been friends with the manager for 20 years). And once I said I used the Jump Street movies to determine if I could be close friends with someone and she responded with an eyeroll and "Oh god, yeah, those are so bad." NGL I got some gratification from explaining to her that no, they are Cinematic Fucking Masterpieces Of Our Time, but still... oof. I don't have the energy to spend time on the things I want to spend time on. If anyone's got input on navigating that I wouldn't mind.
Today is hair touch-up day and ugh. It'll look great when it's done. It'll look great when it's done.
We're also blessed with new Zhu Yilong from the Tom Ford team.
It's been four years since the Guardian filming ceremony.
Fanart: It's raining, can I come in?
Not fandom-related, but good info for escaping Adobe subscriptions if anyone needs that.
Today's dump on cm.net.
Random thought that occurred to me last night: I always shied away from getting a tattoo because I have commitment issues (I don't even like to buy plane tickets), but for a while I thought how much I'd love a collar tattoo that read "Feminist Killjoy" in pretty, swoopy, calligraphy. The reason I didn't get it are irrelevant now, but I gotta say I'm relieved because I'm too tired to wear bitter humor on my body these days.
Tum is feeling a bit better, thank goodness. I managed some of my beloved rice-and-sardines for breakfast with *knock wood* no ill effects other than slight discomfort from putting too much in my now-shrunken belly. I was so hungry though! Gonna attempt some sauteed zucchini for lunch. 🤞
A few days ago I got an email from my mom with the subject line "Today was about you" and had a photo of her wearing a necklace and a wrap I made. Hilarious in light of the post I made about her earlier this month. I have no idea if she's lurking on my social media or not, but it made me laugh. Many many years ago she went nosing around the social media of some friends (who used their legal names) to find mine (I was using a different moniker then) and that's how she found out I smoked and had sex with women (I'm not sure which bothered her more, tbh). My dad told me she had to seek some sort of counseling to recover from that which made me laugh because oh my god how could I not. But yeah, anyway. I don't know if she did the same thing and managed to find my new online persona or not but if you're reading Mommy, HI THERE! Don'tcha wish you'd learned your lesson the first time?
Cool story, bro: I tried to come out to my mom when I was 19. I thought I'd warm up to the big reveal by telling her about a guy I'd met at college who was bi, not gay, and her response was "Oh, they're even worse" so that pretty much shut down that conversation and I never brought it up again. It's okay, I'm over it and can laugh about it now but sheesh. And she wonders why I don't share details of my life with her. smh
I also got an email from a former student who wants to hang out when it's safe to do so and I'm trying to figure out how to give a soft no. She isn't awful or anything, just... sorta judgey and opinionated in ways that rub me the wrong way. She says things like "That restaurant everyone says is good is actually terrible and let me tell you why!" without prompting (or remembering that any catered event I organized for the department used that restaurant because I've been friends with the manager for 20 years). And once I said I used the Jump Street movies to determine if I could be close friends with someone and she responded with an eyeroll and "Oh god, yeah, those are so bad." NGL I got some gratification from explaining to her that no, they are Cinematic Fucking Masterpieces Of Our Time, but still... oof. I don't have the energy to spend time on the things I want to spend time on. If anyone's got input on navigating that I wouldn't mind.
Today is hair touch-up day and ugh. It'll look great when it's done. It'll look great when it's done.
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I'm glad you were able to eat more this morning with next to no issues. I was looking at those tins of sardines the last time I was at the store and while I didn't get any that time, I was smiling thinking of you!
Ooof, your mother. Good timing on that! It's sweet, but in light of what you've shared, I hope she isn't waiting for you to turn around and make it about her.
Good luck in crafting that soft no.
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Aw! My heart is warm that you saw a tin of sardines and thought of me.
I hope she isn't waiting for you to turn around and make it about her.
LOL, yeah I wrote back "Those look great together!" and that was it. Today was about you... lord. 😆
Soft nos are REALLY HARD in email!!!!
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Very good to hear food is going slightly better today. ♥
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I hope the zucchini is treating your stomach well! One of my favorite quick green-veg sides because it doesn't need parboiling (also delicious with sautéed garlic, but I don't know if that's a thing you're okay with).
In that situation I think my "soft no" would be a failure to respond to the email at all, honestly, or not until long enough later that you can chat about other things in the email/the news and just not refer to getting together at all... .
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I do know. I DO.
Alas, I ran out of energy for chopping the zucchini, so I just threw a spoonful of wakame in the broth. 🙄
Not responding for a while sure isn't the worst idea!
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I have opinions about people offering unsolicited opinions (or advice!) to people with whom there isn't really enough relationship to justify or warrant it. Grrrr.
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SAME.
And she was complaining about Aladdin, Mitti! Aladdin! She was complaining about Mohammed! HOW VERY DARE. I really should've said something, but I was saving my energy for my first (and so far only) public reading of a piece of my fanfic. sigh
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Your mom's counseling, um. Did it, like, work? 'Cos if it did, she should be totally well-adjusted enough to withstand any sinful stuff she might find here...right? (Hi, Manka's mom! Not to worry -- we're just over here having a perfectly heterosexual conversation about...feminist tattoos and coming out trauma. Yup!)
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Hurrah for the commitment-phobes!
*clink!*
Considering the fact that any counseling she may have undergone was 100% likely to be faith-based (and probably associated with their conservative mega-church), I'm sure it helped her a LOT with both of those things. 😂
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Let me know if you figure out how to do the soft no. I tend to just...ignore...it which I know is bad but I don't know how else to do it.
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I'm thinking I might let it sit for several days and then write back with a "here's why I think this might not be the best idea" and tell her if she's interested in examining those parts of herself and getting back to me after she deals with them I'd be up for it but until then I'll pass. I can say that now on a day when I have mental energy. We'll see how I feel next week.
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:: snorfle :: LOL ::
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