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clevermanka) wrote2005-09-13 08:49 am
clevermanka) wrote2005-09-13 08:49 am
OMG teh DRAMA
Good god, what a ...kerfluffle...heh. OW! Stop throwing things! OK, I won't ever ever ever use that word again, promise. Ow. *rubs head*
Who knew that such a minor gripe would cause such a mushroom cloud. Sheesh. It did make me think about some things, though, and how I interact differently with different people.
There are some friends with whom I can make some of the nastiest, crudest jokes possible with no fear that the person will misunderstand or take offense. There are some friends with whom I can exchange cutting, sometimes cruel jibes. Do I say such things to all my friends? Definitely not. And I certainly wouldn't say such things to someone I didn't know very very well. I understand that some people think you should treat everyone the same and let the real you show in any and all circumstances, but that makes me uncomfortable. I have aspects that aren't always socially acceptable. I like to occasionally indulge in humor that could hurt feelings. There are people with whom such exchanges are appropriate and there are people with whom such exchanges would be damaging. It's important to understand those boundaries, respect them, and make use of them.
The bottom line, for me, is respect. I am respectful of other human beings and I treat them politely, as adults, until I know them well enough to see where are their limits for humor, topics of discussion, etc. I expect the same in return.
Who knew that such a minor gripe would cause such a mushroom cloud. Sheesh. It did make me think about some things, though, and how I interact differently with different people.
There are some friends with whom I can make some of the nastiest, crudest jokes possible with no fear that the person will misunderstand or take offense. There are some friends with whom I can exchange cutting, sometimes cruel jibes. Do I say such things to all my friends? Definitely not. And I certainly wouldn't say such things to someone I didn't know very very well. I understand that some people think you should treat everyone the same and let the real you show in any and all circumstances, but that makes me uncomfortable. I have aspects that aren't always socially acceptable. I like to occasionally indulge in humor that could hurt feelings. There are people with whom such exchanges are appropriate and there are people with whom such exchanges would be damaging. It's important to understand those boundaries, respect them, and make use of them.
The bottom line, for me, is respect. I am respectful of other human beings and I treat them politely, as adults, until I know them well enough to see where are their limits for humor, topics of discussion, etc. I expect the same in return.
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You see the world differently than one who does not travel some of the paths you have chosen.
Ultimately, it is good for us to step back and remember that we must always be working to gauge our audience, and our assumptions about our audience...as well as to pay attention to where boundaries should be drawn when others choose to deal with us.
This is not a negative, by any means.
D.
The way I think of it:
;)
And I DO have other ways of expressing said love and respect.
Can you laugh about this mushroom cloud yet? Because I'm finding it amusing already.
Re: The way I think of it:
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I feel much the same as you - I try to treat people respect and expect to be treated the same. Though perhaps we should think about lowering our expectations? ;)
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Respect is hard for some people to understand. I've done the best I can with it, but sometimes I blow it a bit here and there.
But yeah, I agree wholeheartedly.
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Either that or a memory of raw and uncensored.
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BTW, either you or