The myth of love conquers all

[clevermanka]

I read this last week and am just now getting around to posting a link to it. It's good reading. Written with a slight poly slant, but not at all applicable to relationships that only have multiple partners. A lot of it can also be applied to non-romantic friendships.

Thoughts on why some people are good for each other, why some people aren't, and why no, love isn't always all you need.

Thanks to ms_danson for giving me the heads-up on this one.

Comments

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

So you don't approach relationships in the same way as someone else. That's cool, but your first reaction isn't "huh, another way to deal with life," it's "wow, that person has something wrong with him."

Seems that a lot of things in your life are Right or Wrong and of course the way you feel is always Right.

People don't like children? They are Wrong! Someone stays in a marriage because it's mentally and physically unhealthy? S/he is Wrong! Then you get angry and resentful when people lash back at you for telling them their opinions are bad or they shouldn't feel a particular way.

if you're meeting somewhere and making a laundry list of what they can or can't be, it just seems like an awful lot of work to defend yourself against the possibility of being hurt.

Interestingly, as I read it, this is exactly what the essay writer was speaking against.

It's becoming increasingly clear to me that we have nothing in common. No hard feelings, Ben, but I think I'm checking out here.

*tips hat*

Adieu.

[professormass.livejournal.com]

I'm the first to admit that my take on life isn't the only one — but you're right, I'm not shy about the value judgements I have made.

I'm sorry I offended you; it wasn't my intention. But I certainly respect your right to decide who you wish to interact with.

No hard feelings on my end, either.