The myth of love conquers all

[clevermanka]

I read this last week and am just now getting around to posting a link to it. It's good reading. Written with a slight poly slant, but not at all applicable to relationships that only have multiple partners. A lot of it can also be applied to non-romantic friendships.

Thoughts on why some people are good for each other, why some people aren't, and why no, love isn't always all you need.

Thanks to ms_danson for giving me the heads-up on this one.

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Abundance Model v. Starvation Model

[http://users.livejournal.com/_luaineach/]

One of the occasions where my thinking patterns really got challenged in this area was when I quit smoking. I had to really realize and re-train myself that it wasn't a case of choosing the negative ... not a case of "oh, now I won't smoke" but a case of "oh, now i'll [whatever it was]". It's strange how that sort of thinking creeps in with something like that. I mean, it's not as if when picking a coffee cup or something in the morning I think "oh, I will not pick that blue one". You don't think that way. You think in terms of the one you *do* choose. Interesting thing to have to work around mentally.