In which our intrepid heroine calls out two people who don't care to be publically recognized

[clevermanka]

So, I'm sorry, ladies, but...

tama_grey is a brave, honest soul who puts her evolving life goals on her LJ and shares how she's doing with each one. At the risk of embarrassing her to death, I gotta say that I have such respect and admiration for this woman. She has worked incredibly hard to overcome various life troubles and she never quits. She might get knocked down or experience setbacks or get depressed or feel rotten, but she never quits. Baby, you are amazing. Anyway, yesterday she put up some new goals and one of them is: ID (by my physical reaction when I think of them) top stressors in my life right now and brainstorm a few ways to reduce their impact.

I love this idea. I have stressors that I love (my gravitation to last-minute costuming schedules) and I have stressors that I hate (the shit with the summer workshop/conference stuff). The problem is, my body doesn't differentiate between my beloved and hated stressors. So I'm putting a huge burden on my system by indulging and allowing these things to consume my life. I need to find a way to minimize all stressors, so I can then pick and choose the stressors I want to retain.

Conveniently, Whole9 Life (parents of the Whole30), posted an article today about rest and recovery and how our bodies respond to different levels of stress.

Also appearing on my F-list in the last 24 hours was a post by shrijani where she mentioned eliminating (or at least reducing) one particular negative character trait not to benefit others, but because indulging that negative character trait is bad for her. More good words, in good time, from another person I respect. Because, yes, continuing to navigate and manage the CSSF summer stuff the way I've done for the past five years is beneficial to a lot of other people, but it is very, very, very bad for me. And I no longer want to do things that are bad for me.

Er. Except for smoke. *tsk*

So, now. What to do with this information. Time to ponder.

Comments

[mckitterick.livejournal.com]

Sounds like we need to talk about ways to make managing the CSSF summer logistics less stressful for you....

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

[pennswoods.livejournal.com]

Recognizing one's triggers and being able to handle/stress down sounds like a magic super power I'd like to develop.

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

I dunno that it's magic, but it's definitely a super power--and one I'm going to strive to develop!

[redheadfae.livejournal.com]

I most def need to read that article, once I get out of this current stressor called a job :)

Very inspiring, indeed.

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

It's so good to have people around you who are smart and inspiring! I'm fortunate in my friends.

[redheadfae.livejournal.com]

Same here.

[msmitti.livejournal.com]

this is a great article and good stuff to think about in multiple contexts. thanks for sharing.

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

XOXO!

[saffronhare.livejournal.com]

At home, we have started to refer to it as Bannering, as in the Hulk. "Hey, Banner down."

[alryssa.livejournal.com]

I'm alllll for eliminating stress. Half of eliminating mine has been in reducing the number of misogynists, racists and bigots on Facebook I'm exposed to. :P

[dotar-sojat.livejournal.com]

You have to do what you have to do.

I want you to know that your work on the CSSF summer stuff is certainly appreciated, by me at least if not everyone who attends. At least it SHOULD be appreciated by everyone.

[tama-grey.livejournal.com]

Thank you!!! [blushes]

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

Ugh. Yeah, I only read Facebook to make sure I'm not missing out on events and stuff. Most of the dickwads on my FB list are people I have to play nice with come renaissance festival season. I don't need to be thinking about their fucked-up worldviews while I'm trying to entertain patrons!

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

I know it's vaguely appreciated. And that's nice. And I wouldn't even need the appreciation if it wasn't for the petty bullshit. I'm just so tired of people thinking that I'm some sort of concierge/hotel service.

"I can't have an east-facing window because the light wakes me, but I can't sleep with an eye mask."

"Is it okay if I show up four days early? I already booked my plane ticket."

"How do I cook my own food while I'm in the dorm?"

And on and on and on.

It would be okay if I could simply tell people that I am not a hotel concierge and the dorms are not a four-star hotel with kitchenette and if that's what they need/want, they can stay off campus. But inevitably, when I tell someone we cannot accommodate them, they go crying to their workshop leader, who brings it back to me, and then it's my problem again.

Not cool.

For the record, you are not one of these people.

URA

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

[shrijani.livejournal.com]

ID (by my physical reaction when I think of them) top stressors in my life right now and brainstorm a few ways to reduce their impact.

OMG. I am going to do that, too. Brilliant!

[clevermanka.livejournal.com]

INORITE???

She tends to be a tad self-effacing, but tama_grey is a very smart lady