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clevermanka) wrote2014-03-07 01:52 pm
clevermanka) wrote2014-03-07 01:52 pm
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There's some fucking (male) creep in the hallway outside my office who is eating a bag of potato chips and offering some to every woman that walks by. I don't know for sure that he isn't offering any to men, but I've seen him do this before, in a different part of the building and he never says anything to guys as they pass. He offered me some food once, after I had a chance to observe his behavior while I walked down the hall, and I gave him one of my infamous ugly-angry stares.
It makes me so angry because there is nothing I can do. He's not being overtly malicious, or calling after anyone, or doing anything untoward, so what can I say? "Hey, dude, what you're doing is uncomfortable-making, please stop?" Yeah, and then I have to engage with him and explain (probably) why he's being a fucking creep. Which, no. For many reasons, no. Plus, he's in a wheelchair, which makes the situation just that much more impossible.
This is on top of the fact that I had the following interaction with a douchebag on FB earlier today. He found me through someone else and I figured she's pretty okay so I friended him back (MISTAKE) and then this happened. I'm not bothering to fuzz out his name, because seriously, Fuck This Guy.
And I know I'm preaching to the choir, here, but this? THIS is why women hate/fear men. This is why I just can't with men in general most of the time. This is why I am sometimes heard to say things like "GAH! MEN SUCK!" Although more often it's just "People Suck." This is why, despite the fact that I have a wonderful, loving, supportive, and understanding partner in![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
mckitterick, sometimes I just need WOMAN-ONLY SPACE. Because this shit is my life. It's the life of every woman walking the planet today. Some of us have it more, some of us have it less, but all women deal with a form of misogyny every day. Every God Damned Day.
And buddy, let me tell you--if you're not part of the solution, you are part of the problem. And it's an ugly, ugly problem.
It makes me so angry because there is nothing I can do. He's not being overtly malicious, or calling after anyone, or doing anything untoward, so what can I say? "Hey, dude, what you're doing is uncomfortable-making, please stop?" Yeah, and then I have to engage with him and explain (probably) why he's being a fucking creep. Which, no. For many reasons, no. Plus, he's in a wheelchair, which makes the situation just that much more impossible.
This is on top of the fact that I had the following interaction with a douchebag on FB earlier today. He found me through someone else and I figured she's pretty okay so I friended him back (MISTAKE) and then this happened. I'm not bothering to fuzz out his name, because seriously, Fuck This Guy.
And I know I'm preaching to the choir, here, but this? THIS is why women hate/fear men. This is why I just can't with men in general most of the time. This is why I am sometimes heard to say things like "GAH! MEN SUCK!" Although more often it's just "People Suck." This is why, despite the fact that I have a wonderful, loving, supportive, and understanding partner in
mckitterick, sometimes I just need WOMAN-ONLY SPACE. Because this shit is my life. It's the life of every woman walking the planet today. Some of us have it more, some of us have it less, but all women deal with a form of misogyny every day. Every God Damned Day.And buddy, let me tell you--if you're not part of the solution, you are part of the problem. And it's an ugly, ugly problem.
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