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clevermanka) wrote2021-05-31 04:42 pm
clevermanka) wrote2021-05-31 04:42 pm
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Monday
Fanart: Lollipop. On/off. Back hug! Another ghost story! Love bites. Dip. Princess carry.
Beautiful danger. Zhu Yilong plaguing the baby mimosas.
Dreamwidth: Having the REPLY link in the same place as BAN USER or UNSUBSCRIBE when I hover a nanosecond too long is NOT GREAT.
Good news: Dinner went well! Everyone liked the food (shrimp curry that I fleshed out last minute with some eggplants because the students each brought their significant other--whoops! cultural assumptions, my bad!--and chocolate bread with black cherry jam). Hilariously, what everyone really liked was the eggplant so next time I'll skip spending the money on shrimp. Of course the whole time I was cooking the eggplants all I could think of was this.
It was really fun! For me, anyway. I hope they had a good time. They liked the food, at least--everyone went back for seconds. It was an experience, though. I'd never been such an odd person out in so many ways--the oldest (by far! the oldest of them was born in 1990), the only single person, and the only white person. I felt as much an observer as participant in the conversations. The style of communication was very different than what I have with the (few) other people I hang out with in person and it was fascinating. Obviously the conversations were a little more superficial since I've previously hung out with only one of them but all four of them (especially the two significant others) regularly spent time on their phones, just, like, scrolling until a topic of interest came up. But when they joined back in, it was obvious they'd been paying attention because they'd reference what other people were saying. And I can do that, myself, but I've never been in a group of people doing it. I wouldn't want someone to do that in a one-on-one conversation, but in a group setting It was lovely, actually. Eased the pressure of my instinctive need as a host to keep conversation rolling. They stayed for five hours, long after the food ran out, so I feel like they were enjoying themselves?
Bad news: I feel like shit today! Like wow I am completely wiped out and I'm hungry, but my stomach isn't happy with anything I put in it (not even broth and rice). I took a nap at 11am. I wasn't even able to deal with having music on until 4pm. Checking my old entries, I haven't made a fatigue-related post (beyond my usual state of always being tired in some way) since March 31. That's actually pretty good! But other than my short daily walks which have been on hold for a week with all the rain, I haven't exactly been real active these past couple months. So that doesn't give me a lot of information, but I'm noting it here for future data points.
Speaking of, the weather is not great, and that could be a factor, at least with this morning's headache.
So it was a fun time and I loved feeding people again but wow, at the cost of an entire day--not sure how often I'll be able to afford that indulgence.
Beautiful danger. Zhu Yilong plaguing the baby mimosas.
Dreamwidth: Having the REPLY link in the same place as BAN USER or UNSUBSCRIBE when I hover a nanosecond too long is NOT GREAT.
Good news: Dinner went well! Everyone liked the food (shrimp curry that I fleshed out last minute with some eggplants because the students each brought their significant other--whoops! cultural assumptions, my bad!--and chocolate bread with black cherry jam). Hilariously, what everyone really liked was the eggplant so next time I'll skip spending the money on shrimp. Of course the whole time I was cooking the eggplants all I could think of was this.
It was really fun! For me, anyway. I hope they had a good time. They liked the food, at least--everyone went back for seconds. It was an experience, though. I'd never been such an odd person out in so many ways--the oldest (by far! the oldest of them was born in 1990), the only single person, and the only white person. I felt as much an observer as participant in the conversations. The style of communication was very different than what I have with the (few) other people I hang out with in person and it was fascinating. Obviously the conversations were a little more superficial since I've previously hung out with only one of them but all four of them (especially the two significant others) regularly spent time on their phones, just, like, scrolling until a topic of interest came up. But when they joined back in, it was obvious they'd been paying attention because they'd reference what other people were saying. And I can do that, myself, but I've never been in a group of people doing it. I wouldn't want someone to do that in a one-on-one conversation, but in a group setting It was lovely, actually. Eased the pressure of my instinctive need as a host to keep conversation rolling. They stayed for five hours, long after the food ran out, so I feel like they were enjoying themselves?
Bad news: I feel like shit today! Like wow I am completely wiped out and I'm hungry, but my stomach isn't happy with anything I put in it (not even broth and rice). I took a nap at 11am. I wasn't even able to deal with having music on until 4pm. Checking my old entries, I haven't made a fatigue-related post (beyond my usual state of always being tired in some way) since March 31. That's actually pretty good! But other than my short daily walks which have been on hold for a week with all the rain, I haven't exactly been real active these past couple months. So that doesn't give me a lot of information, but I'm noting it here for future data points.
Speaking of, the weather is not great, and that could be a factor, at least with this morning's headache.
So it was a fun time and I loved feeding people again but wow, at the cost of an entire day--not sure how often I'll be able to afford that indulgence.
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I'm glad you had fun with your guests, and I hope you'll feel better soon. *hugs*
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I'm so glad you had a good time with food and friends. That is the best.
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And yes! Yay food with friends!
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SAME, FRIEND.
Well, and not living with people I have to feed.
SAAAAAAAAAAME.
(psst someday I would love to cook with you!)
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It's one thing to do that, though, and another to be expected to cook nearly every day. My mom did that while I was growing up, and yeah, Dad worked full-time and she was an SAHM, but it was also just part of our religious subculture, regardless of whether both partners had paid labor jobs or not. It wasn't even a thing men were encouraged to have in their skillset, despite the fact they were expected to live for a year and a half with no one but other dudes, doing missionary work! And when I got married, despite having a full-time job, I did the bulk of the cooking precisely because I didn't want to be eating either breakfast foods or lobster all the time (much as I love those things).
Now, it's nice not just to cook what I want without anyone to complain (and to cook the same thing every month with no one to complain, because most of the time, my gut is finicky, and I get to try one to two new recipes a month, but mostly, it's things I know will go down fine), but to not cook when I'm not up to it and have no one to either sulk or make snide comments about it.
(psst someday I would love to cook with you!)
I would love that so much! My chosen family in San Diego and I love to cook together. Once I'm back and settled, you have to come visit. It's even more beautiful than any tourist campaign makes it seem.
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I have other friends in San Diego, so that's actually a likely thing to happen, provided I ever have the time/money/energy to travel again!
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Zhu Yilong plaguing the baby mimosas.
Grown-up people who can have harmless fun without thinking they're too old for it are the best.
Having the REPLY link in the same place as BAN USER or UNSUBSCRIBE when I hover a nanosecond too long is NOT GREAT.
I KNOW! I've unsubscribed from people several times because the popup is right where I want to hit "post comment". Twice, I only noticed it months later. :(((
I WILL at some point manage to write up that recipe. It's not that complicated! /o\
I haven't made a fatigue-related post since March 31.
Yeah. I couldn't have told you the exact date, but it's been a while. <3
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Yesssssssssssssss
Glad to know I'm not the only who who has accidentally unsubscribed from people--at least I noticed right away!