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Dr. Burt confirmed some sort of bacterial infection, so I'm on a Z-pack with a Diflucan chaser for the respiratory/sinus stuff. I'm also on massive doses of Allegra for the hives, and a big old tube of steroid cream for topical treatment. Here's hoping those all kick in by Saturday morning.

mckitterick and I have had the unfortunate opportunity to engage in several recent conversations about systemic misogyny. Here is another example. This sort of thing happens every day, and it happens to women you know. I haven't experienced this sort of thing on a regular basis, but it's happened to me on several occasions and it never gets any easier to deal with. When are we going to stop telling our daughters "don't dress like that," "don't go out alone," "don't do this don't do that don't don't don't" and start telling our sons "don't do horrible things?" Will this ever happen in enough numbers to change our culture?

New Tumblr Collection. Wednesday, September 5: Black and White.

I'm not going to be able to keep up with the WITL project this week. It seems silly that I wouldn't have the energy for such a small thing as photos, but my health is really in the shitter right now and I barely have the energy to function, much less remember to take photos during the day. Sorry, y'all.

Update: Oh dear. One of the medications is not sitting well at all. I'm not sure that everything is going to stay down. Perhaps I should have eaten more with lunch? Less? Ugh. This is...unpleasant. I wish I wasn't at the office.

Update of update: Okay, everything stayed down and I'm feeling better, but exhausted.

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Man... sounds like you are having some tough luck lately!

Yeah, this has not been one of my best weeks...months...years...

A friend of mine, who really is a nice guy, and not one of *those* nice guys, happened to ask me after reading that, "well, how *can* a guy approach a woman nicely and not be offensive?" I told him that if the body language, ie, reading a book on the bus, says "not interested in engaging", then DON'T. It's that simple, and I was surprised that as nice as he is, he still needed to hear that from a woman friend to understand it.

Hope that nausea passes quickly.

I was surprised that as nice as he is, he still needed to hear that from a woman friend to understand it.

Truth. And common. I couldn't give a better example of male privilege than that right there.

Nausea is already a little better. THANK GOD. At least the following doses are only one pill at a time. I think the double dose might be what caused it.

Euw.. yeh. That and the mixture of antihist/Diflucan..blerg.

I won't start the Diflucan until the day after I finish the Z-pack, though.

OH. Well, that's good.. ?

I hate this kind of stuff. I hate it when men don't understand why the problem (I've only had to deal with more subtle things, not anything this egregious)is a problem, and I find it impossible to explain to someone why (insert problem here) is a problem, when it should be completely obvious. I am not overreacting. I am not "PMSing." Why is this not clear not only to the parties involved but to people we try to explain it to? "It's not my fault your pretty." Seriously?! growl.

I am not overreacting. I am not "PMSing."

Rage. RAGE. Oh my fucking god I hate that emotional reactions are so commonly trivialized by a hormonal fluctuation. FUCK YOU YOU FUCKING FUCKS.

Yeah, it's pretty horrible when men do that. I like that one guy was willing to help her with the bicyclist. That guy is a piece of work.

I'm grateful that good people like you are raising kids not to be assholes. Thank you.

I read this and thought. "So glad this doesn't happen to me."

Then I went to a salad bar at the grocery store. A guy also getting his salad and scooting up WAY TO CLOSE TO ME. Starts SINGING "give me love, give me love" don't even know if it's a song. I was creeped out. Then he asks me if they charge by the pound. (for the salad) I did not take my time and got out of there. WTF was that?

I'm hoping your treatments bring you relief quickly.

I think it happens more than we realize, but we're conditioned to not notice, and/or not get upset by it. More horrible social conditioning.

Here's to feeling much better by Saturday!

Ugh, yes! Because the PriceChopper (or whatever) salad bar is totes da hoe stroll. Ugly ugly man. It angers me that you couldn't leisurely pick out your grub without being crowded and insulted like that.

OMG, what is wrong with people?

I wonder if you perhaps get this more than you realize, but noticed it this time because you'd just read about an egregious example....

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you feel better. I saw that story yesterday and ... it's one of those things that make me so mad I can't form coherent speech or talk about it rationally. I get less of that than some women, because my size is intimidating. But still. It's fucking ridiculous.

Your gorgeous tumblr collection makes me happy, though.

Yay! Happy to hear you liked the pretty pictures.

That woman's train ride was a trip through hell. How absolutely terrifying. :(

*sending you de-exhaustion sparkles*

Thank you for the sparkles! I need all I can get.

Short comment on your short summary: it's a lot easier to believe that everybody else is raising the assholes.

I sincerely doubt that you are raising assholes. If they turn out to be assholes, it will through no fault of yours.

:) thanks. I sure hope you're right.

But I think that's just more support for my statement. When you (or people on here, or people in the story you link to) talk about "clueless" asshole men, it's a weird sort of cluelessness. Say some guy has a daughter. If he watches (or just thinks about) some other guy doing X to his daughter, there's a much higher chance that he'll recognize X as an asshole behavior, even if he's the kind of guy who might actually do X himself. So, because parents think about such things, the message to the daughter is going to come with more strength than the message to the son.

Ugh. Poorly worded, and too much for 1 paragraph, but I have class to teach.

God-that blog, and that poor woman.

Love that tumblr!

1.Did you notice that the guy with the glass of milk has false eyelashes on the bottom of only one eye?
2.A co-worker just got herself a tape dispenser that is a black patent (well-shiny plastic,really) spike heel shoe.
3. I WANT THOSE HOSE WITH THE LINES AND THE HANDS!!

Did you notice that the guy with the glass of milk has false eyelashes on the bottom of only one eye?

Sweetie, that's Alex from Kubrick's A Clockwork Orange (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Clockwork_Orange_%28film%29) movie. One of the most horrifically amazing film adaptations of a horrifically amazing book ever.

Oh, DUH.
I've read the book, but not seen the movie, so....
And that's ok-LOL away!

I was thinking-you may have already changed out the straps on your costume, but-can you simply line them with a different fabric? Probably not enough protection, considering how badly you broke out with the hives, though....

Oh my goodness you should see the movie. Well, if the book didn't completely squick you. I was amazed at the successful emotional manipulation Kubrick managed with that film. Staggering.

I'm going to change the straps out tonight. NO WAY do I want to risk coming into contact with that fabric again!

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