Whew whew weekend

From bellanorth, ( My anime life )

Friday night's Sellout show at the Granada was absolutely stellar and I hope they get more gigs there. It was a veritable frenzy of LJers out on the dance floor: arian1, bellanorth, _mac_, roya_spirit, starstraf, stuology, and of course 0verdrive and myself, along with non-LJers Andrea, Mac's sister, and roya_spirit's current chew toy Jay. Am I missing anyone? The only (teeny) complaint I had was they didn't do "Push It", but after the first set I lost roya_spirit anyway and since she's my fave dance partner for that one, I suppose it's just as well.

Saturday was dedicated to doing a bit of fabric shopping with bellanorth, then car shopping with 0verdrive, radcliffe, and stuology. stuology came out ahead of the rest of us and actually found something she liked well enough to talk financing about. Hooray for her! Cuuuute car and a great deal, too. Crossing my fingers for her. 0verdrive, radcliffe, and I were too tired to work up much energy to go to Fetish night, so instead we hooked up with arian1, bellanorth and louie_d for dinner at Longhorn Steakhouse. It was really good and just what I needed. Mmmmm, food.

I want to feel badly about missing the Fetish night, but I don't really. Contra Naturam has failed to impress me on at least two occasions now, and I can't say I'm thrilled with the lack of a dress code policy at the Bottleneck for Fetish Night.

My gripes with Contra Naturam:

They are doing scenes for an audience that, for the majority, has no clue about basic BDSM. They engage in dangerous and/or unsafe habits (yes, there is a difference. Danger can be fun. Unsafe isn't--ever) and don't explain that people shouldn't try this at home unless great precautions are taken.

There are no flyers explaining safewords, basic SM rules, or books or websites where more information can be found.

The show is more about young and attractive exhibitionists than actual SM (sado-masochism) or DS (domination/submission). There is no headspace, no guts, no oomph. The people doing the stage show seem more interested in showing themselves off than they do in getting the audience off. And I guess that's ok for them, but it leaves the rest of us left out in the cold.

I can hear the it now: "But it's just a stage show, it's an act!" Yes, but this group is acting as BDSM ambassadors to the vanilla world (whether they want that title or not) and they need to consider the fact they people might take their show as an educative act. I think their performance would be vastly improved by making the first act a demonstrative explanation. A sort of "This is what we do, how we do it, and why." Then follow that up with the theatrics. And literature. They need literature with references to SM 101, Screw the Roses... and other informative texts.

But why am bothering here? Sigh. I guess just to explain why I didn't attend the Bottleneck's Fetish night, and unless I'm feeling particularly masochistic, (heh) I probably won't attend many others.

Now to get some of my inbox cleaned out before I head off to lunch with starstraf and Kathryn.

I wonder if they're related

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It would be very interesting if B.D. and Rob Wilco are cousins.