My own private awesome

I just saw this on HuntGatherLove. I wants it.



A post on someone's clean eating blog reminded me of why I don't read comments except on LJ, and only then on journals of people where I've not had bad experiences with comments. Unfortunately, this one blog entry was all about the comments they'd received from a Facebook post they'd made, while on vacation in Mexico. They mentioned they ate something with corn tortillas and a whole bunch of people were like "WTF you guyz are hypocrites and u hav betrayed meeeee!" It reminded me why my presence on the internet is restricted to basically LJ and why I don't read comments on external blogs. Also why I'm not on Facebook. God, people. Grow the fuck up and get over yourselves. Get over your "heroes," while you're at it. We're all just people. Nobody's perfect, and perfection is a goal to which nobody should aspire, anyway.

The best you can be, ever? Ever, ever, ever? Is never going to be perfect. And that goes for every single other person on the planet. Another blogger I read recently put up a post about being the best version of herself this year. I like the idea. It's very similar to the whole "Before I do anything, I ask myself, 'Is it awesome?'" standard.

Your own personal best. Your own awesome. Own them and live them.

My own awesome now involves staying away from those anger-provoking posts/threads from now on. And if I do read them (when one sneaks in like the above mentioned), I shall walk away from the "comment" button.

It's never too early for porn, but it *is* too early for this level of frustration

Here I was, merrily reading along in this article on porn, finding things I agreed with, things I disagreed with, and things I really didn't care about one way or the other. Then I came across this paragraph and my head exploded:

Hard-core porn, which is what Internet porn largely traffics in, is undoubtedly extreme. But how is sex, as a human experience, anything less than extreme? Not the kind of sex (or lack thereof) that occurs in marriages that double as domestic gulags. Or what 30-somethings do to each other in the second year of their “serious relationship.” But the sex that occurs in between relationships—or overlaps with relationships—where the buffers of intimacy or familiarity do not exist: the raw, unpracticed sort. If a woman thinks of the best sex she’s had in her life, she’s often thinking of this kind of sex, and while it may be the best sex in her life, it’s not the sex she wants to have throughout her life—or more accurately, it’s not the sex she’d have with the man with whom she’d like to spend her life.

1. As a past-30-something in a "serious relationship," I still want mind-blowing sex. Maybe not every single time, but yeah, I think it's safe to say I want it occasionally for the rest of my life. With my partner.

2. Hello, heterosexual bias! Jesus H., could that be more obvious/offensive?

3. I'm not an expert on the subject, but I'm going to voice my uncertainty that internet porn is "largely trafficked" by hardcore porn. I'd like to see some download statistics, please. And maybe a definition of "hardcore."

The only thing about this paragraph that I can respect is her proper use of "whom."

The author then goes on to use some Freudian analysis (yes, really), denigrating comments about "the women's liberation movement" and other feminist stances through the ages, throws in a totally inaccurate comparison to SF (oh, and uses the hated "sci-fi" moniker no I am not shitting you), and then takes note of all those poor women (past and present) who have succumbed to the call of posing for porn or participating in sexual acts not because they want to, but because men want them to.

And let's not overlook her thoughts on those dirty, dirty men!

While sexual aggression and the desire to debase women may not be what arouse all men, they are certainly an animating force of male sexuality. They may be unattractive and even, if taken to extremes, dangerous, but they’re not, perhaps alas, deviant.

Perhaps alas? Perhaps alas? What. The. Fuck. Also, news flash for you author lady: Anything taken to extremes is dangerous.

removing pornography won’t alter the unlovely aspects of male sexuality that porn depicts and legitimizes

I can't even respond to this one because my brain just hit the wall behind me with such force that it's going to take me a few minutes and maybe another cup of coffee to recover.

PERHAPS ALAS, I'll only be online until about 10:00 this morning, but if anyone else is up this early and cares to subject themselves to that article, I'd love to hear your opinion on it. Perhaps my porn-loving brain is too biased to get the good out of what she's saying with this load of crap article.